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Getting to Know Yourself: A Guide to Enneagram Self-Reflection Practices

For some of us, beginning to do our own self-work means tuning into ourselves in new ways. It often requires intentional observation and practice to notice our own patterns, behaviors, and motivation. Close friends and family often see things about us and often reflect back to us things about ourselves that we otherwise would miss. Yet, there is no one better positioned to know us, than us. We can't outsource the job, but rather need to take the time to get to know ourselves, really know and understand who we are.

As we begin, or continue, our own journey toward self-growth, we need to learn to notice these things in ourselves, to tune in to the tendencies, patterns, and needs that show up for us in our everyday lives.

Below are three of my favorite self-awareness methods from different enneagram teachers. They are simple ways to intentionally cue into who you are. Use these to develop your self-awareness and start paying attention to yourself.

There are a myriad of practices out there, so my best advice is to find one that resonates the best with you. Try practicing one of these throughout your day for several weeks. When you find yourself stressed at work, or triggered by a conversation, try the technique you selected. Tune in, and be curious with yourself. Peel back the layers and ask yourself what is going on for you - what are you feeling, thinking, doing? Why did you respond the way you did to that conversation or that situation? And then actively glean any new insights you learn about yourself along the way.

A.W.A.R.E. (Adapted from Beth McCord, Your Enneagram Coach)

As a 5w4, this AWARE method is one of my favorites. I'm not naturally tuned into my body and not the most self-aware. I love the posture of open hands and open hearts to receive insights about myself with grace.